Before Taylor and I
ever dated, we were best friends. We hung out every day and we knew everything
about each other. He is was someone I could always go and talk to. And of
course I was the person he would always came to also. Conversations were easy.
We both really loved learning new things about each other. And the fact that he
was totally adorable and I wanted to date him was a big reason for being best
friends too. Then we started dating. And life was still perfect as ever because
I had my best friend right at my side. Then we were engaged and he was still my
best friend. And now we are married. Taylor is still my ultimate best friend,
but sometimes it isn’t easy. Here are some ways that have helped keep us close
and stay best friends.
1) Be excited about the things they get excited about.
Taylor is in the fire academy right now and he comes home and tells me all
about his day and all the cool things he did with fire in class. I never
understand half of the vocabulary he is using and just don't get really
interested so I tend to zone out. NOT OKAY! It has been my priority lately to
really care and be excited for him and all the things he is doing. It has
definitely helped us to be best friends. And then because I listen and get
excited for him he gets excited and listens to what has happened during my day
or what I think was really cool. If you want someone to care, you need to care
first.
2) Make
your Spouse your priority. Put them first. Don’t let your spouse be
just like every other one of your friends. Make your spouse be the most
important person in your life.
3) Be
forgiving. It is easy to hold a grudge. But my philosophy on this is
grudges don’t do you any good. Being angry and bitter will not make you feel
better about the situation or yourself. At the end of the day, your grudge will
still be there. So get over it and let it go. Everyone has a bad day and
sometimes we say awful things to each other that we don’t mean. I by no means
am perfect at all. If Taylor wasn’t constantly forgiving me I would definitely
be in trouble and we would not be the best friends that we are today. If you
want a friendship that lasts, a marriage that endures, you must forgive both
big and small.
4) Be grateful
and reward them. One of my favorite little ‘tricks’ is to always
make a big deal about the things Taylor is doing that I really appreciate
instead of nagging him about doing them. When he sees that I am actually
grateful he tends to do them more instead of when I am trying to force him into
doing something he doesn’t want to do. It’s almost like training a dog, if you
want them to do something you need to reward them. We all like to be rewarded
whether we realize it or not. And this keeps both of you happy so it is a
win-win for everyone!
5) And lastly, have fun together. Sometimes
we get stuck in the routine of household chores, cooking food, and just working
in general. This is all good and grand, but you need to have fun together too.
This will keep your marriage interesting instead of being in the same old
habits and going through the same motions every day. Do something you both
enjoy whether you are on a sports team together, workout together, dance together or even
going to the nickel arcade together. The sky is the limit.
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