1) Go on a weekend getaway, just the two of you.
2) Let your spouse know how important they are to you
by actually showing it instead of just telling them.
3) Show interest in his hobbies whether you love them
or not. Make them become a part of your life too.
4) Be tender and gentle and realize he has feelings
too.
5) Try to understand where he is coming from rather
than it’s your way or the highway.
6) When out spending an enjoyable night together don’t
bring up nagging topics or problems. Just have fun.
7) Give him your undivided attention instead of 10
percenting it as we call it (: Still working on this one.
8) Let go of the small things. We all do annoying
things and sometimes it’s better to just let it go then cause an avoidable
argument.
9) Communicate respectfully and avoid placing blame
such as “You did this.. You did that..”
10) Focus on
what he is doing right instead of what he is doing wrong. I am really
working on this one and let me tell you, it has made all the difference in our
marriage.
11) Communicate with him in his particular love
language.
12) Always defend your spouse, never say inappropriate
or rude things about them whether you are joking or not.
13) Hide notes for him around the house.
14) Strive towards certain goals together.
15) Admit your mistakes, be humble. Sometimes I feel
like I am weak by letting him know I was wrong, but pride is a big no no when
it comes to having an effective marriage.
16) Play games together.
17) Laugh together.
18) Give him alone time or time to spend with his
friends. Sometimes we need a break from each other and don’t let it bother you.
Your marriage will be stronger because of it.
19) Offer advice when you can, avoid nagging.
20) Respect his desires and wishes.
21) Pray for him.
22) Offer massages after a long days work.
23) Express to him your needs.
24) Take drives together. I love Sunday drives. We
love to just drive through nice neighborhoods and pick out things we love in
other houses and what we want for our future. We never agree haha, but we
compromise.
25) Brag about him to other people.
26) Express your appreciation always. Don’t expect
they know how you feel.
27) Make time for each other.
28) Be kind and thoughtful.
29) Be a student and let him be the teacher. I tend to
get very offensive if he tries to show me how to do something better. I KNOW
how to do it… Be humble and let him help you or teach you more effectively.
30) Love your inlaws. I have many friends who can’t
stand the In-laws because maybe they said something once that hurt their
feelings, or the mother in law is too protective over her son, or so on… Well
get over it. They are your family too and you need to act like it. Love them
and treat them with respect.
31) Take special notice when he does something you are
especially grateful for.
32) Know his sexual needs and desires.
33) Don’t expect him to read your mind. And especially
don’t get mad when he doesn’t read it.
34) Be physically active. I think it is so so so
important to look good and feel good not only for yourself, but for your spouse
as well.
35) Give him the benefit of the doubt.
36) Cheer his successes.
37) Talk through important decisions you need to make
and decide together.
38) Try not to argue over money. Money is the cause of
much heartache in relationships and avoid that.
39) Hold his hand at home and in public.
40) And especially do not belittle his intelligence.
